Everyone you know seems to be getting paired off. They spend their time gazing lovingly into one another’s eyes as Cupid, fluttering somewhere overhead, plays a harp. But not you. You’re still single. It was fun for a while, the freedom, but not anymore. What mistakes are you making that are keeping you single?
Thankfully, you’ve come to South Florida Introductions We are experts on helping you find real, lasting love. Our team has helped pair more than 1,000 happy marriages. Keep reading to find out the five biggest mistakes that are keeping you single.
You’re Trying Too Hard
Trying too hard can manifest itself in lots of different ways. A good way to tell if you’re trying too hard is to take stock of your anxiety levels on your first dates. People who are nervous about the success of a relationship tend to act in overeager ways, which can put a lot of unintentional pressure on your counterpart and cause them to take a step back.
Your Playing (Too) Hard To Get
One of the biggest mistakes that can keep you single is pretending to be busy when asked out. Always trying to be the cool guy or girl is common. Pretend not to care when you really do is common. Still, playing hard to get makes it hard to find Mr. or Ms. Right. In fact, it’s likely to attract just the sort of person who will make you unhappy: someone who doesn’t feel comfortable being close. You can make the perfect first impression by being authentic. We’re not suggesting that you should lower your standards. We’re simply saying that you should be careful to make sure that you’re not turning dating into a game. Games can sometimes attract the worst sorts of players.
You Fall for Gender Stereotypes
Men fear commitment? Women are needy? Are men from Venus and women from Mars? Well, not necessarily. This is another big mistake that is keeping you single. When it comes to relationships, people fall into one of three basic categories. So-called secure or confident people are warm and loving and feel comfortable with intimacy. People who are more anxious seek closeness but worry their love won’t be reciprocated. Avoidant people, on the other hand shun intimacy, valuing independence above all.
You Care More About Having A “One” Than Finding The One
If you’ve romanticized the idea of having that special someone to the degree that you lose sight of what a quality relationship looks like, this could be a mistake that is keeping you single. Settling for anyone that is interested in you doesn’t make for a lasting relationship. Make a list of your non-negotiables when it comes to a partner, and adhere to it.
You’re Wounded/Damaged From A Past Relationship
Self-preservation can be sneaky because, sometimes, you don’t even realize you’re doing it. If you’ve gotten out of a rocky relationship and find that you’re afraid you’ll get hurt again or repeat past mistakes, you may be sabotaging your own dating efforts. You may be chasing unavailable people or going after someone you know you’re not compatible with. These is a major mistake that can keep you single. It’s also a dating pitfall to avoid. Being ready for a relationship after a bad break up can take a while, and if you find you’re not quite ready, that’s totally fine, regardless of pressures that friends or family may be putting on you. Work on taking care of yourself!
And there you have the five biggest mistakes that are keeping you single. If you’re ready to change that, to find a partner in all senses of the word, then give us a call today at 561-393-6666.