In the dating world, body language is one of the most important non-verbal cues. You can be totally interested in someone but, due to your cold and uninviting body-language, s/he may have no way to know it. Here’s your guide to warm body language.
The Importance Of Warm Body Language
To understand modern day nonverbal signals of attraction it is helpful to look at the history of where our body language comes from. Our caveman ancestors used the same body language we use today. Here are the messages we are trying to send with our body language to potential mates, and what is seen as attractive:
~ I’m open
~ I’m harmless
~ I’m interested
~ I’m approachable
~ I’m fertile
So then, how does one person’s body language act to attract another?
First Things First
Rutgers University anthropologist Helen Fisher says that the human body knows within 1 second whether someone is physically attractive or not. Here are the body language cues that humans find most attractive:
Availability: Both males and females find people with available body language the most attractive. Available body language is smiling, uncrossed arms, uncrossed legs and upward gazing (not looking down at shoes or phones).
Fertility: From an evolutionary perspective, humans are tuned into body language cues that signal fertility and youth. Luckily, these can be emphasized with body language. For men, standing up straight, squaring the shoulders, planting feet slightly more than shoulder width apart and displaying hands are all signs of fertility. For a woman, keeping your hair down, tilting your head to expose pheromones and keeping hands and wrists visible to display the soft skin of the wrists are highly attractive for men.
Strike While The Iron Is Hot
Once our mind decides we like someone as a potential mate our body automatically begins to change physically to attract the person. Our cheeks flush to make us look like we are aroused, our lips swell to look more fertile and even our pheromones pump to attract the other person. There are a few things we can do to attract a mate from a body language perspective.
Lean In: Leaning towards someone is a nonverbal way of telling them you are engaged. This works especially well if you are in a group of people and you are interested in one person in the group. A way to show them you are interested is by leaning towards them. This subconsciously will pull them in your direction.
Head Tilting: Head tilting shows interest and engagement. If you are speaking with someone, let them know you are present and interested by tilting your head and gazing at them. Be sure to not look over their head or around the room, this shows lack of interest and sensitivity.
Now that you know how to maintain a warm and inviting body language, it’s time to put your knowledge into practice. Begin your search today with South Florida Introductions. We’ve helped countless of couples find a lasting love. It’s time we helped you, too.